Watching Movies and Quality Discussions – Scientifically Approved Method to Improve Romantic Relationship. [Complete Guide]
Have you thought about discussing with your partner everything that is going on in your relationship? Watching movies can be a technique for improving communication, understanding, and building better romantic relationship. It will allow you to find insights as well as release your emotions and activate natural change. Movies can help to initiate a conversation, then will be the perfect solution to keep your marriage healthy.
Research showed result of drop of the divorce rates by half
A study by Dr. Ronald Rogge, a professor of psychology at the University of Rochester, found that watching movies could cut the number of divorces in half.
"We thought the movie treatment would help, but not nearly as much as the other programs in which we were teaching all of these state-of-the-art skills," said Dr. Ronald Rogge the lead author of the study.
174 engaged and newlyweds were asked to watch five relationship films for one month and then discuss them as a couple for 45 minutes. Couples discussed each movie after watching it, asking questions about the characters and situations in the scenes. The results were compared between couples in the therapeutic study, which showed that all methods had positive results. After three years of the study, it was found that the divorce rate for couples who did not receive therapy dropped to 11 percent, compared to 24 percent.
Benefits of this approach in couple relationship maintenance
Spending time at the movies with the person you love is an easy way to work on your romantic relationship. Every couple can do this and reap the benefits of spending quality time together, activating deep communication and getting to know each other even better.
When each partner shares their emotions after watching a movie, answers question and discusses them together while reflecting on their own relationship and behavior, magic happens.
But it doesn't always have to be a vulnerable discussion if you're not ready. You can discuss whether there were characters in the movie whose behavior you would like to emulate or try not to follow in your marriage.
Your guide to watching movies and quality discussions from Ringi
Knowing this positive effect of watching movies and having quality conversations, let's talk about how to do this experiment. Here's an easy-to-follow guide that will help you try this experiment and increase your level of deep communication with your partner, as well as gain some knowledge useful for your romantic relationship.
1) Set your movie time
Since many of you are busy at work, and you have even less time for activities together if you are raising children, it is very helpful to make a schedule to set aside enough time for this activity. This means preparing time to watch movies in a quiet and peaceful environment and being able to discuss it in depth after watching it. If you have children, set aside time for a weekend evening after the kids are asleep, and the two of you will have some space to make an effort to improve your relationship.
2) Select movies you want to watch with your partner. Here the list we prepared for you
A 2009 American romantic comedy film directed by Peter Billingsley marking his directorial debut, and written by Jon Favreau, Vince Vaughn, and Dana Fox. (Wikipedia)Blue Valentine
A 2010 American romantic drama film written and directed by Derek Cianfrance. (Wikipedia)Indecent Proposal
A 1993 American romantic drama film directed by Adrian Lyne and written by Amy Holden Jones, based on the 1988 novel by Jack Engelhard. (Wikipedia)If Only
A 2004 romantic fantasy drama film directed by Gil Junger and starring Jennifer Love Hewitt and Paul Nicholls. (Wikipedia)50 First Dates
A 2004 American romantic comedy drama film directed by Peter Segal and starring Adam Sandler and Drew Barrymore. (Wikipedia)
3) Discuss the questions afterwards
- What events in the movie made you think differently about our relationship?
- Would you have done the same thing as the main character in the movie, or would you have done it differently? Why, if so? And what would you do differently if not?
- Did you find things in this movie that relate to our relationship? What are some of those things?
- What can we learn from this movie to strengthen our relationship?
Tips to make the discussion effective
If you really want to connect with each other, don't interrupt or criticize your partner when they share their thoughts. If you've been having trouble communicating, the movie experiment may be a chance for you to practice listening and sharing your emotions and thoughts in a safe environment.
Last words from Ringi
Watching movies can be a technique for connecting, understanding, and building better romantic relationship. Even if the relationship shown on screen is completely different from your own, you can still learn from how other couples respond to whatever life throws at them.
If you want to maintain your relationship with personalized plans and be more connected to your partner, check out Ringi, an AI app. This couples app allows you to check at any time on your smartphone how to maintain your romantic relationship with your partner according to the results of your evaluation.
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- Life coach, MBA, Author of the book “Real Financial Freedom”.
- “After being married for more than 12 years and being in a relationship for 22 years with my spouse, I understand that keeping and maintaining intimacy in marriage is not always an easy feat. Among many other factors, it requires sustaining good means of communication that will complement our efforts to keep the flame going. This article serves as a good reminder to keep us going as a couple amid all the challenges of life.”
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