The marriage Counselor asked, "What are the 3 keys to a healthy relationship in marriage?"
Everyone would like you to know what the keys to a healthy relationship, whether you are newlywed or veteran couple.
Periods of stress and poor communication, as well as the onset of happy times that are warmly remembered in family photos, are part of family life. However, having some basic knowledge and applying it correctly can make it easier to get through the stresses and spend the happy moments with more joy. A happy married life is not just an occasional accident, but the result of the partners working together.
We asked our marriage expert to share 3 keys to a healthy relationship. Here are 3 important things every married couple should be aware:
“Many couples can speak, but this doesn’t mean that they are communicating with each other” – says marriage counselor Takako Uemura
Communication means you are actively listening to one another and understand and validate each other’s needs. Effective communication skills can help couples to learn about each other and support each other. Communication is a joint effort between two people to share and validate all their perceptions, feelings, ideas, and thoughts to understand exactly what is going on in a relationship.
Communication is the key to a better relationship.
“Acceptance does not mean giving up hope for a better relationship.” – says marriage counselor Takako Uemura
One of the main destroyers of relationship is a lack of acceptance. As children we look to our parents for acceptance. And in adulthood, marriage is our most intimate relationship, so our partner becomes the person we look to for acceptance. To accept doesn't mean always agreeing with your partner, it's okay to agree and disagree. We don't have to like the same things because we are different people. To accept is to be able to appreciate your partner's differences. It means being more flexible, being able to compromise and understanding that people have different perspectives on life. When you fully accept where your partner is at this moment, you can open and engage in the development rather than closing the door for possibilities as a couple. Acceptance is a key for happiness and growth of a relationship.
“You are in a relationship with someone, then why not develop interdependence with your partner? That’s the best part of being in a committed relationship” – says marriage counselor Takako Uemura
Many people probably heard about “codependent relationship” before. Codependent is when a person loses his or her core sense of self and becomes centered in his or her thoughts and actions around someone or something external, such as a person, a substance, etc... Codependent relationships are about power and control.
But when two individuals, who ultimately come from two different backgrounds, respect each other, co-exist, and enjoy each other, that’s interdependence. Interdependent relationships help increase partners' confidence and self-esteem and promote feelings of emotional security and mutual respect. Developing interdependence is essential to build a happy married life.
Last words from Ringi
From our interview with marriage counselor, we found that there are 3 keys to a healthy relationship: communication, acceptance, and interdependence.
If you want to maintain your relationship with personalized plans and be more connected to your partner, check out Ringi, an AI app. This couples app allows you to check at any time on your smartphone how to maintain your romantic relationship with your partner according to the results of your evaluation.
- Takako Uemura
- Ms. Uemura was born and raised in Japan. She obtained Bachelor of Arts from Xavier University of Louisiana and Master’s degree in marital and family therapy with art therapy from Notre Dame de Namur University. She worked with a child welfare organization for more than five years where she assisted children, adolescents, adults and families in foster care.
- Since she moved back to Japan, she has been working with people of all ages and backgrounds, and have extensive experience treating trauma, mood disorders, acculturation issues, and family and couple conflicts.
Ringi blog writers:
- Yerkezhan Karatayeva
- Minae Yonemura